tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11190188.post2268752754699836755..comments2023-12-10T07:27:17.914-05:00Comments on Never a Dull Moment: ODD, Conduct Disorder, and ExpectationsClaudiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02057662343562530495noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11190188.post-55454236984903927292009-05-25T09:50:23.908-05:002009-05-25T09:50:23.908-05:00Thank you, thank you, thank you! I am a new reade...Thank you, thank you, thank you! I am a new reader to your blog, finding it on a search for ways to help my daughter. Diagnosed with ODD and aspbergers, I have had constant struggles since she became a part of our family at 5 months. I really needed to hear the words and the feelings in your blog. It always feels like we are in an all consuming war. I began to wonder if it was me, and now I am beginning to see that I need to let it be about her.Pattyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03711683723044435878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11190188.post-45528062780970820652009-05-22T14:51:23.844-05:002009-05-22T14:51:23.844-05:00I can definitly see Lindy's point, along with your...I can definitly see Lindy's point, along with your explanation. If you didn't have the alphabet soup of issues, I probably would have given a similar comment. <br /><br /> Although pregnancy wasn't involved at the time, I had to do something similar with my daughter. Of course it didn't work 100%, and I had be willing to change my thoughts on some things a little bit, but overall, it helped a LOT.<br /><br />Bottom line is to continue to support your daughter in a way that offers her AND the grandchild a decent chance.Barb in No. WIhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06741317974014885121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11190188.post-52950367567911040942009-05-22T12:51:50.348-05:002009-05-22T12:51:50.348-05:00From what you've blogged, I don't think you're tak...From what you've blogged, I don't think you're taking away her responsibilities. In fact, I think you are putting those responsibilities squarely back where they belong - on her shoulder. When you try to force her to do things, you are taking on the responsibility that should be hers, and it creates a lot of stress for both of you.<br /><br />Letting go will benefit both of you in the stress department and probably improve your relationship. Maybe she'll pony up to more of her responsibilities, maybe not - but is it really likely that she will accomplish much LESS if you let go?<br /><br />I think you're doing the right thing.AdoptiveMommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13698157003084671068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11190188.post-44154781253454493732009-05-22T08:39:24.615-05:002009-05-22T08:39:24.615-05:00I'm totally with you. boundaries, boundaries, boun...I'm totally with you. boundaries, boundaries, boundaries.<br /><br />She has to learn responsibility and she won't learn it if you do the job for her. Like learning to walk there isn't much you can do (I believe) past staying out of her way.Yondallahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10375966725096729570noreply@blogger.com