tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11190188.post2484716345675892471..comments2023-12-10T07:27:17.914-05:00Comments on Never a Dull Moment: "Having My Back"Claudiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02057662343562530495noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11190188.post-91312760542789949322008-01-28T21:52:00.000-06:002008-01-28T21:52:00.000-06:00Boy this blog strikes a cord with me. No support,...Boy this blog strikes a cord with me. No support, blaming, we apparently are bad parents...despite our 2 other children who are upstanding citizens. All they can say is obviously this is your issue, we can't help you and we don't know of any resources for you!!! I am astonished at the lack of true post adoption support provided. We experienced this by both a private agency and county adoption. They tell you they are there for you when adopting but the really aren't. Thank you for posting this for the world to see. I want to write a book about the realities, but I fear that it may be a disservice to the waiting children, then again perhaps not.Tracy and Donovan Jackmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10934679157152891955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11190188.post-59788672042060236812008-01-28T21:11:00.000-06:002008-01-28T21:11:00.000-06:00Hear hear. I fought for 8 months just to get my da...Hear hear. I fought for 8 months just to get my daughter home. She was too "damaged" to be adopted. HAH! Well, one would think that a kid so disabled would not have had her medical benefits cancelled once the adoption was finalized. What was the reasons? "No longer disabled." Reinstated after 3 months of astronomical medical bills. Her social worker had ZERO contact with us after placement (before placement she would have followed us into the bathroom if she could have). THEN, our daughter's old county FIGHTS us on having any waivered services after "forgetting" to disclose that they were available. Instead opting to notify us about the services with a cancellation notice. I could go on and on and on as it does not end there. HOWEVER, despite the awful system fighting us in every possible way, I have a happy family with a happy kid who is far from being "too damaged to be adopted".<BR/><BR/>We, as parents, have to all be fighters to get ourselves into this messy foster adoption system. We, as parents, all have to be stubborn and patient and kind and caring to continue caring for the kids once all those people who said that they would be there disappear. But you all know this already :) We've been through it. We will fight again another day and win some battles and lose some. But at least we are fighting for our kids :)Torinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00992090842674056507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11190188.post-55604679850742111242008-01-28T17:35:00.000-06:002008-01-28T17:35:00.000-06:00I feel the same way. It's one thing to have peopl...I feel the same way. It's one thing to have people telling us we're saints and they could never do what we do (duh, if they could, I imagine they would) - we don't ask for that and feel very humbled by those kind words. It's totally another thing to be constantly criticized by the people who should be helping. Why do we even have to ASK for help, let alone beg? Things should just be there in place to help our kids - yes, I'm living in la-la land. Once our kids are adopted, they are OUR problem. We do so much and at such sacrifice to ourselves, our other kids, our relationships in every imaginable way (our family reputation, our personal friends, etc.). It's never enough. We ask for help and we're immediately victimized again by the system.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612523674452864077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11190188.post-53353109628087670972008-01-28T13:57:00.000-06:002008-01-28T13:57:00.000-06:00Well said girlfriend....Well said girlfriend....Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13429299173028645330noreply@blogger.com