tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11190188.post5018117003455067422..comments2023-12-10T07:27:17.914-05:00Comments on Never a Dull Moment: A Mentorless MovementClaudiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02057662343562530495noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11190188.post-4188545514467889642012-04-23T16:32:02.710-05:002012-04-23T16:32:02.710-05:00I agree with the above comments. I have several p...I agree with the above comments. I have several people I "mentor" informally. They've individually told me that they were hanging on for dear life and that I was the first person to ever understand the insanity of the life they're living. They've also shared with me that I'm the first person that didn't question their accounts of their kids' behaviors or made them feel like they needed to defend themselves because I get it. This is enormous validation for me as well because I am in a position to treat them the way I always wanted to be treated in this journey. I don't lie or exaggerate about my kids disabilities and struggles and I have constantly had to prove myself to others. I hated it and don't ever want anyone to feel like I'm doing that to them.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612523674452864077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11190188.post-71001195537993611942012-04-23T16:11:58.201-05:002012-04-23T16:11:58.201-05:00I still offer encouragement to people and share ou...I still offer encouragement to people and share our story, but just not in a public forum. I'll be at an adoptive mom's retreat this weekend with moms from all over the country. I now have ten of my twelve adopted kids legally adults and only one is in jail. Text me if you ever need to chat.ZetaBluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03540780751103985286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11190188.post-84084246307370991672012-04-22T22:10:11.725-05:002012-04-22T22:10:11.725-05:00I use my parents as my mentors, they would agree t...I use my parents as my mentors, they would agree that the transition to adulthood is hardest, the adult children present more challenges and in some respects more saddness as there are limits to what any parent can do for them. A response to Linda's comment, you didn't fail your children, you did your best and like us as we are starting to accept slowly - our best may not be enough, but its all we can do.DynamicDuohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17873524872136172078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11190188.post-31926724842488224762012-04-22T19:38:09.113-05:002012-04-22T19:38:09.113-05:00Although many may not be involved with the formal ...Although many may not be involved with the formal support groups, writing etc, I believe that those who have been in the trenches provide informal support via personal relationships. Like-minded people tend to find each other in any community and those relationships are not in public view but are what keep people invested in the adoption journey.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08805312463294623555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11190188.post-90716519234460896482012-04-22T12:25:30.667-05:002012-04-22T12:25:30.667-05:00I feel like I failed as parent to my adoptive kids...I feel like I failed as parent to my adoptive kids who are now adults so I don't feel I can "mentor" anyone.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05752377086820595278noreply@blogger.com