My Journey as a Foster and Adoptive Parent.... 12 kids in 12 years.
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Anyone else find this true?
I just realized this morning that MY location determines the severity of Dominyk's meltdowns. Even if I am doing the same things, if I am in one room his behavior is worse than it is if I am in another room. Does anyone else have that happen?
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I find that if I am in the same with my OCD kid his behaviors are better but if my OCD kid is the same room with his father he gets worse... it may not be the room but who is in it.... The person in it may trigger a reaction (arggg)...
YES YES YES. This applies to both of my kids that have fits. With both of them, it is MUCH more dramatic if they have more space or if they know I can hear or see them. If not...well, then what were they freaking out about again? They can't remember. But they follow me around so I can't escape the drama. I think if they could crawl in my lap and freak out right there that would be ideal...but I'm not that nice (and I've tried it and it doesn't work...just makes ME miserable and them...satisfied in a gross way).
most definetly, anymore I try to be the last one downstairs in the morning, if I'm not around for them to push buttons it is better for all. Except that they rely on me to keep them organized so I gather my thoughts while alone so I can calmly run through the have to do's in as quick a time as I can. On days when I'm up first - we always have a confrontation of some kind.
Now that I know her better my RADilicious daughter has fewer meltdowns if I'm in the room to help regulate her emotions. If I'm not there, or not up on my game she'll escalate to a rage super fast. The good news is she's having fewer meltdowns. The bad news is I have to be home whenever she's out of school.
Jupiter was throwing a fit in the living room on Sunday so I went into the kitchen and started preparing supper. Since she didn't have an audience she came out to the kitchen to continue the fit. And a half hour later after she had regulated you would never have known she'd even HAD a fit.
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ReplyDeleteI am the Community Manager for AdoptionVoices.com--the rapidly growing adoption social network.
I wanted to personally invite you to participate in AdoptionVoices for free by adding a profile for yourself (or your family) and connecting with others who share a similar passion for adoption. You can events, create and host groups, upload success videos, etc. We think you would be a perfect fit!
To join, simply go to www.adoptionvoices.com and click on the "sign up" box in the top right corner.
It only takes about 5 minutes to set up a quick profile.
Please let me know if you have any questions; it would be my pleasure to assist you in any way I can.
See you on AdoptionVoices! ;)
I find that if I am in the same with my OCD kid his behaviors are better but if my OCD kid is the same room with his father he gets worse... it may not be the room but who is in it.... The person in it may trigger a reaction (arggg)...
ReplyDeleteYES YES YES. This applies to both of my kids that have fits. With both of them, it is MUCH more dramatic if they have more space or if they know I can hear or see them. If not...well, then what were they freaking out about again? They can't remember. But they follow me around so I can't escape the drama. I think if they could crawl in my lap and freak out right there that would be ideal...but I'm not that nice (and I've tried it and it doesn't work...just makes ME miserable and them...satisfied in a gross way).
ReplyDeletemost definetly, anymore I try to be the last one downstairs in the morning, if I'm not around for them to push buttons it is better for all. Except that they rely on me to keep them organized so I gather my thoughts while alone so I can calmly run through the have to do's in as quick a time as I can. On days when I'm up first - we always have a confrontation of some kind.
ReplyDeleteNow that I know her better my RADilicious daughter has fewer meltdowns if I'm in the room to help regulate her emotions. If I'm not there, or not up on my game she'll escalate to a rage super fast. The good news is she's having fewer meltdowns. The bad news is I have to be home whenever she's out of school.
ReplyDeleteMary in TX
I posted the Adoption Voices invitation just so you all could be invited too.
ReplyDeleteBut Mrs. R.....
I'm already a member.....
Jupiter was throwing a fit in the living room on Sunday so I went into the kitchen and started preparing supper. Since she didn't have an audience she came out to the kitchen to continue the fit. And a half hour later after she had regulated you would never have known she'd even HAD a fit.
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