* A stack of books, a Bible on top, was planted right in front of the downstairs toilet this morning.... it looked more like a stepping stool than reading material...
* Last night Dominyk slept with me. He decided he liked the way the word photosynthesis sounded. And so he said it. About 231 times in different voices with different accents and different emphases.
* An after school snack has to be eaten at 1:00 even if you have lunch at noon even if school is usually out at 3:00 and today is out at 12:30.
* I am the reason that Dominyk can't stop crying... the reason his nose is plugged.... the reason his stomach hurts....the reason his nose is plugged....the reason he can't breathe.
* I am mean because the things that are requested of me that are never allowed are still not being allowed even though there is no school this afternoon.
* There are more blankets in the living room than there are in anyone's bedroom.
* Fires are started here (in the fireplace fortunately) even though everyone claims to not have a lighter.
* A change in routine means a lot more than minor discomfort.
* I am never ever nice to Dominyk. If I were nicer he wouldn't cry all the time like he does. He asked me why I was never nice. I told him it's not my nature.
* I am at a loss as to how to answer the question, "Why do you have to be so mean to me? I have never done ANYTHING to you, but you are always so mean to me."
* Tony made brownies without permission last night. Dominyk had 8 brownies without permission last night. He has a stomach ache today but it is "horrible parenting" that I can't make his stomach feel better. His stomach hurts. and I quote. It hurts. It hurts. It huuuuuurts. It hurts very badly. It huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuurts. It hurts Mom, very very very badly.
I think you're getting the picture....
Have you tried asking D. exactly what it is you do that is so "mean?' He'll probably reply, "everything," but if you press him to be specific "so you can stop being mean," what will he say?
ReplyDeleteHe seems to have the reasoning power of a much younger child. He is the center of his world and his mother has godlike powers. Does he get the concept of free will and responsibility or does he think you should have prevented him from getting a stomachache, not by refusing to let him eat too many brownies (because that would be "mean") but by your supernatural Mother Powers.
Frankly, I don't see how you do it. I need some downtime and my bedroom, particularly my bed, is off limits to everyone but my husband and myself. When the kids were small and they were sick I'd occasionally cuddle with them in their beds but my bed was a no-kid zone.
Just thinking of having a bid kid like D. lying next to me and repeating "photosynthesis" over and over makes my head hurt.
I think I have a younger, smaller, darker (skinned, that is) version of your D! EVERYTHING is MY fault. I am so mean. I hate him. I NEVER let him do anything. LOL---So in my world, you have a very NORMAL life.
ReplyDeleteMy steadfast answer is, "I'm so sorry you feel that way." Lather, rinse, repeat. I love when I ask him, "What can I do to make you feel better?" There never is an answer for that one!
I presume D is your borderline Aspie that you mentioned the other day on my blog? (or maybe that was another RAD mom? lol) Anyway, my Aspie Boy is like this and he DOESN'T have RADs. I do like the other moms have already said, I put the ball back in his court. "Well son? what do you want me to do about it?" and he usually stops his incessant ranting and harumphs and walks away. Blessed peace for about 10 minutes! lol
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