I picked up Dominyk. Last night he had had a major meltdown because Bart took Wilson to the store. He said it wasn't fair.
So today he asked me if I would take him somewhere and I responded that it wouldn't be fair because I had taken him on Tuesday and I hadn't taken any of the other kids anywhere lately. He screamed and cried.
I said, "Maybe if you stop talking about how things aren't fair for a week, I will stop trying to make everything fair."
To which he responded, "I have to go for a whole week saying that's not fair????? Nooooo! That's not FAIR!"
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Tony was swearing and I mentioned that if he wasn't careful he was going to owe me a dollar for swearing. He said, "Hell isn't a swear word if you're talking about a real place like you do in church. Mom, you are going to HELL. YOU are going to HELL. A place."
I responded with some wise crack that made Dominyk laugh and Tony said, "Shut up Dominyk. You're going to hell too. A place."
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When we returned home Tony, very agitated, came stomping in the house and threatened to kill me. I headed for the phone asking if I needed to call 911. He said no, that he wasn't going to kill me.
he followed me to the bedroom and asked this question, " If you knew we had problems when you adopted us, why do you think it's OK to call the police if we threaten to kill you?"
Do I live in a warped world or what?
I'm sorry but I laughed out loud at Tony's last line (well, really a snort-laugh, kind of a snorf). Just like things kids say at my house. Warped indeed.
ReplyDeleteI laughed, too, at the whole thing! Dominyk and Tony are perfect examples of why God blessed foster and adoptive Mothers with a great sense of humor! Thanks for sharing that, Claudia.
ReplyDeleteI always appreciate your blogs - Zach used the you know I have issues statement and therefore shouldn't be made to do his chores just the other day -actually attempts to use it often.
ReplyDeleteAfter you reading your blogs I always feel alittle less alone .....
I love your blog. It makes me feel slightly more normal. I especially had to laugh at Dominyk's "That's not fair" comment because I haven't heard that phrase in almost 2 years!
ReplyDeleteIn our house we have a form of discipline called the FAIR Club. Basically life is not fair, especially in a family - and you wouldn't really want it to be. In the FAIR Club, life IS fair - and my kids hate it! Using the word fair is the fastest way to get in the FAIR Club - hence my not having heard it in 2 years! *grin*
If you want to read about the FAIR Club I wrote a series of articles about it on eHow.com. http://www.ehow.com/how_2180886_discipline-difficult-child-cfair-club.html
My kids think I'm the meanest mom in the world because I tell lots of parents about the FAIR club! LOL!
Mary
Mom to 2 special needs teenagers we adopted last year and 2 biokids. Ages 10, 12, 13 and 15.
Tony's "if you knew we had problems . . ." statement made me laugh out loud. Warped is what we live, also, and what we consider a good day others would consider a disaster.
ReplyDeleteYour blog has been a comfort to me during some recent difficult times. It helps so much to know we're not alone, and others are surviving, even coping and laughing. Thanks.