Monday, January 23, 2012

One step forward 5 steps back..

If things start looking up, you may want to remember that they may not stay that way.

I have noticed that for my kids there seems to be a rule that if they make one step forward they will take three... four... five steps back. So if they are headed in the right direction then something will happen.

I spent part of my morning making a lot of headway into financial aid issues for one of my kids only to find out they skipped class this morning. And now I'm getting text messages about what a bad and unhelpful parent I am. Sigh.

I'm willing to do what I can to help my kids. But I have had to put boundaries as to what I can't do. It's sad that the only things that count seem to be the things we can't do.... they don't see the value in anything else.

Tough stuff. but we seem to keep going, one day at a time. And I refuse to allow myself to get bitter... I'm going to keep loving them, seeing the good I can in them, and moving forward if at all possible. So many parents get stuck in negativity.... i just can't let that happen.

1 comment:

DynamicDuo said...

I'm getting really good at walking in reverse - you'll get there! To practice try backing up a trailer, you have do the opposite of what you think you should do in order for everything to line up right!