Has anybody else noticed this? We don't socialize as much as we used to 20 years ago. And I'm not talking about "us" as adoptive families who have nobody who wants to invite us over because we have too many kids -- I'm talking about "us" as a society.
Twenty years ago I was single but I had a lot of married friends. And we hung out together a LOT. Almost every weekend night of the year I was either at someone's house or they were at mine. We played games. We played cards. We talked. We shared life with each other -- we were closely following each others lives -- the ups and the downs -- and we felt each other's pain and shared each other's joy. Now I just like someone's facebook status.
What has happened to people genuinely meeting face to face to share life? To "break bread" together? To connect in meaningful ways? We are all so busy, wrapped up in our own journeys, that we don't take time to get involved in others.
But the richness of life is in the stories of other people! The depth, the marrow so to speak, of life itself is in the digesting of the narratives of the people around us. They make us richer, they make us stronger, they make us healthier. Knowing your story makes mine make more sense.
Yes, we have blogs. Yes, we have Facebook. We have instant messaging and email and twitter and a host of other avenues in which we can click our way through other people's lives. But it just isn't the same thing is it?
I have had a theory about my social life since I was a teenager. I believe that the ball is always in my court. I don't wait around for someone to invite me to do something - I do the inviting. But lately I haven't made time to do that as much and I need to.
Sure, I"ll keep commenting on blogs. And I'll keep updating my status on Facebook if I have time. But I want the depth of the real thing.
Have you experienced the same changes in your life? Isn't it up to our generation to demonstrate to our kids that it is more fun to be together in reality than it is virtually? Or have we given up on them getting it?
I challenge you to get together IN PERSON with someone in the next 2 weeks and ask some questions and get to know more of their story. I'm sure you'll be glad you did.