I had another placement fall through today and was tempted to get discouraged. Then I remembered reading this somewhere years ago and just googled it and found it. There was no author on the site either so I don’t know where it came from.
It is totally appropriate when dealing with “the system” all the time. It is so incredibly imperfect, but it is what it is and we have to live within it. I hope that I can live as one who is mature by this definition.
The Actual and the Ideal
There are two things: the actual and the ideal.
To be mature is to see the ideal and live with the actual.
To fail is to accept the actual and reject the ideal;
and to accept only that which is ideal and refuse the actual is to be immature.
Do not criticise the actual because you have seen the ideal;
do not reject the ideal because you see the actual.
Maturity is to live with the actual but hold to the ideal.
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Just simply rest assured that if the placement fell through that it wasn't the proper placement. I know it's difficult, but God has a plan, and that wasn't it.
In one situation for us, we struggled against adopting a child placed in our home and I believe that we were "muscled" into the "intent to adopt" paperwork. We signed it simply to give it a longer time in our home to decide. Three days later the child molested another child we had just adopted. We should've went with our feeling that it wasn't right. We were relying on our head and not God's heart.
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