Tuesday, March 03, 2009


Hannah asked in a comment for advice when welcoming a 16 year old boy into her home -- a foster son.

I'm going to start a list of ideas, and then maybe the rest of you can add some..

1) PIck your battles.

2) Don't sweat the small stuff.

3) Self differentiate.

4) Do not get sucked in.

5) De-escalate by not getting yourself riled up

6) Read Yondalia. She's the queen of teenage boy foster care,,,,

Anybody else?


Yondalla said...


Hannah_Rae said...

Oh, don't worry, I've posted the same question on Yondalla's blog. :)

Okay, so specifics...very sweet kid, no aggression, but likes to "one up" with outrageous stories (killing a deer bare handed etc...) and "knows" everything.

How about limits on PSP (handheld video game) use?


Claudia said...

The best response to outrageous stories is simply "That's very interesting." If you start to argue or point out inconsistencies, it never ends.

I would say limiting any electronics would relate to performance in other areas If he's getting good grades and doing what is expected around the house, he's responsible enough to decide how much time to spend playing games....

Angela :-) said...

The 'one up'ping seems to be a boy thing. My mom has mentioned it before in regards to my brother and his friends (they got to the point one day that one of them had been on the Titanic--lol). I've seen it with my own boys.

Angela :-)