I just had a sudden inspiration.
I am used to working with several (10-15 at a time sometimes) instant messages going at a time and I can multitask.
What if I consider my children simply instant messages? I can multitask them, right? So far, I have been available for my children. I’ve answered about half my email and about half a million questions, sometimes the same one more than once... or twice.... or three times.
But it has made a difference in how well everyone is behaving.... So that’s good.