I took her lunch. I sat down and ate with her. I stragetized and she listened without being rude. We went through all of her classes and I made a list of what she needed to get done. We set goals of what she wanted to do this week. I made a schedule for the week with empty blanks so she could determine when she would do each of the things she wanted to do.
She won't use the tools I gave her. It's not about that. She probably isn't even going to look at them. What it is about is the fact that I told her I cancelled my plans and came home because she needed me even after she treated me like crap.
I just wish I could remember my own advice about the Teen Attachment Cycle
Would save me some anguish.