I'm not sure they can.
That's the part that has continued to bug me for many years when it comes to the whole thing about my kids.
In my world view, it's all so very simple. It makes sense to me. Things like scheduling and decision making and putting two and two together and getting four every time.
Or what about managing emotions? To me it is simple to make a decision and stick to it. Or to make a selfless choice. Or to not obviously use someone over and over again. Or to not manipulate.
But apparently they really can't. And if they really can't then when I expect them to I'm not very smart.....