I actually got the text of this in an email a couple of years ago from another adoptive mom. At another time when I was feeling invisible myself our pastor mentioned cathedrals and it sparked me to read it again. For me it was uplifting and affirming. As adoptive parents we find that the world at large still charges us with making our kids somewhat successful. Those that are rational realize that kids "go bad" even in ideal circumstances. Any frustration we experience can be brushed off with a "you asked for this" attitude. For a great number of kids adopted from foster care no one is ever going to stand in awe of the accomplishment, as they do with cathedrals. However, God still realizes how much of an accomplishment, what an impact we have. Just like that tiny carved bird.
its funny the timing of your post Claudia. Hubby and I were talking last night and he was slightly miffed I dind't notice the small amt of snow he moved. Never mind the zillion things I had done that day that had gone unnoticed. Listing these items to him made me feel no better really however.
I love the mental picture of the small carved bird.
Definately that imagery is something to remember when dealing with raising my children. Its frustrating when an adoptive child is "bad" to deal with the well, he came from where again? To remember that God sees it all, and that it is all for him...is definately affirming.
It reminds me of why we do what, I should add a bird to the wall in my family room that has a Ghandi quote written on it - Be the change you want to see in the world - the bird would remind me of this powerful video. it is true that I may never see the great things that my children may accomplish and although I often feel invisble as well I try to remember that my life is so much richer with my children thatn it ever would of been without them
It is inspiring, but since you asked for our initial opinion, I'll be brave & honest. I wonder with at least a couple of my kids if there will ever be a "cathedral" of their lives. It sounds harsh, and maybe a little mean to some ears... but it is my honest initial reaction.
Wow! I have been invisible to my children all week and this really puts it into perspective. I may never see what we have poured into Peter (n particular) come to fruition, but I guess I really don't need to. Thanks!
Wow. I needed that encouragement today. I told my 10 year old last night that it hurts when I have to repeat myself so many times because it makes me feel like he doesn't care, like he doesn't hear me. My husband has been traveling quite a bit, and he hasn't been able to call as much as usual, so I've definitely been feeling pretty invisible.
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I actually got the text of this in an email a couple of years ago from another adoptive mom. At another time when I was feeling invisible myself our pastor mentioned cathedrals and it sparked me to read it again. For me it was uplifting and affirming. As adoptive parents we find that the world at large still charges us with making our kids somewhat successful. Those that are rational realize that kids "go bad" even in ideal circumstances. Any frustration we experience can be brushed off with a "you asked for this" attitude. For a great number of kids adopted from foster care no one is ever going to stand in awe of the accomplishment, as they do with cathedrals. However, God still realizes how much of an accomplishment, what an impact we have. Just like that tiny carved bird.
Heather-Mom to six.
its funny the timing of your post Claudia. Hubby and I were talking last night and he was slightly miffed I dind't notice the small amt of snow he moved. Never mind the zillion things I had done that day that had gone unnoticed. Listing these items to him made me feel no better really however.
I love the mental picture of the small carved bird.
Definately that imagery is something to remember when dealing with raising my children. Its frustrating when an adoptive child is "bad" to deal with the well, he came from where again? To remember that God sees it all, and that it is all for him...is definately affirming.
It reminds me of why we do what, I should add a bird to the wall in my family room that has a Ghandi quote written on it - Be the change you want to see in the world - the bird would remind me of this powerful video. it is true that I may never see the great things that my children may accomplish and although I often feel invisble as well I try to remember that my life is so much richer with my children thatn it ever would of been without them
I can't tell you how much I needed to see this right now. Thank you for sharing it.
Thank you so much for posting this today! I have been feeling like this & was down, but now I see it in a new light!
It is inspiring, but since you asked for our initial opinion, I'll be brave & honest. I wonder with at least a couple of my kids if there will ever be a "cathedral" of their lives. It sounds harsh, and maybe a little mean to some ears... but it is my honest initial reaction.
Angela :-)
Wow! I have been invisible to my children all week and this really puts it into perspective. I may never see what we have poured into Peter (n particular) come to fruition, but I guess I really don't need to. Thanks!
Wow. I needed that encouragement today. I told my 10 year old last night that it hurts when I have to repeat myself so many times because it makes me feel like he doesn't care, like he doesn't hear me. My husband has been traveling quite a bit, and he hasn't been able to call as much as usual, so I've definitely been feeling pretty invisible.
Thank you. :)
Blessings!
Hannah
I'm not sure God cares if we get up at 4am and press the napkins. I hope not.
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