I had call from an adoptive parent of some new kids who are pretty tough. She was feeling guilty because after her new six year old climbed out of the window several times today she was getting angry and thinking "I can't do this any more."
Just thought I'd ask you adoptive parents out there to comment (because she reads my blog) as to whether or not you've ever felt like this.
I'd say I've felt this way about twice a week for 9 1/2 years.... What about you guys? Ever thought, "I can't do this any more?" or "i'm not sure how much longer I can do this" when in a crisis moment?
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You want ME to answer that???? I ran away today.
Can we long term foster parents join in?
I have bio's and foster's. I have with every one of them at some point or other thought that. I have gone to my office on the weekend for no other purpose than to cry without being seen.
I have also called social workers and told them that I knew there HAD to be a better response to a certain behavior than murder, but I just could not remember what it was.
Oh, absolutely. Bios, adopted, foster. It's a universal feeling.
Oh gosh yes... Not only have I felt I CAN'T do this anymore, but more often, I don't WANT to do this anymore.
My daughter screamed for most of the night again last night...she has a sleep disorder and has night terrors. She is hyperactive and impulsive during the day and I can't let her out of my sight. I am exhausted and the first words out of my mouth this morning were, "I don't think I can do this anymore."
Then I drank a pot of coffee. And I did it...I made it through another day. ~Kari
Ou can read my blog and find many intstances where I think I can't make it another day. (And I only have one adoptive child!) But a loving look from him if only for a brief second, a "I love you mom" or a "thanks" gets me through. Also you occassionally get a wonderful compliment from a doctor, psychiatrist or psychologist that makes you understand you are making a difference.
I had a psychiatrist say this to me recently when I said I felt like a failure everynight when I went to bed "You are making progress, I know you are succeeding. You may NEVER feel it with a child like this, but you simply have to rest assured that you ARE making a difference." I hang onto that DAILY!
It gets better, you learn to see and accept smaller success as huge ones. Lots of prayer is being sent your way.
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